5 Ways to Develop Emotionally Intelligent Behavior

Effective leaders are emotionally intelligent. They have the skills to manage and use their emotions. And, like all leadership skills, emotional skills – the attitude and abilities with which someone approaches life and work – can be learned and developed. Brain science shows ushow that learning occurs.

The following five-part process is designed to rewire the brain toward more emotionally intelligent behaviors. The process includes:

  • imagining your ideal self,
  • coming to terms with your real self (as others experience you),
  • creating a tactical plan to bridge the gap between ideal and real,
  • practicing those activities.

It concludes with creating a community of colleagues, friends and family – call them change enforcers – to keep the process alive. Let’s look at the steps in more detail.

IDEAL SELF

CURRENT SELF

BRIDGE THE GAP

BEHAVIOR CHANGE

TEAMWORK

GAIN MORE PRACTICE